So I was just thinking today: Why do most successful women find the worst men or the ‘bad boys’? If you are a successful woman or surround yourself around success, why would you attract someone of not necessarily lesser value, but who may not be as ambitious? Is it part of that opposites attract rule?
I guess I bring it up because of my past experiences. Don’t get me wrong…some of my ex-boyfriends are some of the most intelligent and creative individuals I have ever had the pleasure of knowing and allowing in my interesting life, but notice how I just used the word “some”….the rest were ummmmmm….totally out of my league, my style, and one was even straight ”GARBAGE” (if you know me personally…YOU know EXACTLY who I am talking about **side eye** LOL probably the worst few years of my college life!!!!!!) This conversation/topic can go many different ways, but I want to keep it simple. What do you do if you are a successful woman in a relationship with a less successful man? For those who are: Are you just in the relationship with this/your less successful man because of the “thug” appeal or the fact that you will always be the “bread winner”? In other words and on a deeper level, can this be a self-esteem issue and method of creating destructive relationship patterns between men and women, but more importantly the deterioration of “Black Love”. This post was just some food for thought. I am a bit of a hopeless romantic and always in search of better understanding the concept of love. I have been in love, I have fallen in love, but I am still struggling with self love. What do you think about this topic? Let me know: Is this you?
