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We all know that College or attending a University is not for everyone…right? Do you agree?

Well I just got finished watching this 20/20 report on College Students and debt…and do you know what they said?

SOME WERE ENCOURAGING THE IDEA OF SKIPPING COLLEGE and that Today’s Bachelor’s Degree is like a “hunting license” to seek employment!!! Its better to attend a TRADE SCHOOL!!!!

Why in the hell am I hearing this now 20,000 dollars later??????? LOL

Hey St. John’s University!!!!…I’ve got a bone to pick with you!!!!! :(  I heard comments like “The friends that I know who are making a lot of money didn’t even go to college” or “I can be making more money as a hair stylist or mechanic” 

I almost want to ask myself right now…”What am I doing in graduate school?” But I clearly know the answer to that so I won’t go down that path right now.  I just had to VENT!

The other half of the report on 20/20 was about SELF-WORTH and WHAT’S YOUR SALARY?

and of course…

WHO IS THE RICHEST CELEBRITY?

ANSWER:

TOBY MAGUIRE & VINCE VAUGHN (Underpaid)

MARTHA STEWART & OPRAH WINFREY & CEOS of these huge CORPORATIONS like Steve Jobs (of Apple Inc.)  & Stanley O’Neal (Merrill Lynch) (TOO DAMN RICH)

What happens to your self-worth when you are suddenly rocked with a job loss, academic opportunities are cut short and feelings of anxiety, depression, or complete embarrassment consume you?!?!

 Do you define yourself by the school you attend, friends that you have, money that you make? 

DISCUSS AMONGST YOURSELVES.

SO WHAT ARE WE WORTH?  SHOULD WE JUST GO TO COLLEGE IN ORDER TO MAKE MORE MONEY OR CAN WE JUST GO TO A TECHNICAL/TRADE SCHOOL FOR THAT?

“TRUE LOVE IS A REAL HARD THING TO ACHIEVE THESE DAYS”

Sooooo I seriously had to talk about this because it really is something that bothers me, not frequently, but  it does come up more than often….the art of a guy “hollering” at a girl!!!  What’s the right method? Is there one?  Well anyways, I just thought I’d highlight ways NOT to holla at a chic if that’s ok with you!?! 

So here’s the thing….its is extremely inappropriate to come at somebody by whistling at them , making up some name according to what a girl is wearing , or BARKING..the barking is a NO-NO!!! So maybe if I can split my concerns down the line so that you all know where I stand….fair enough? (this shall be hilarious!!!)

RULES ON HOW NOT TO BE A DICKHEAD (lol @ the pic)

• Don’t you dare beep your car horn as I walk past your car and expect us to have a normal conversation without my foot up your ass! Instead you should probably say something like “Excuse me miss or Do you have a minute”..see I shouldn’t even be giving away suggestions on how to “mack!” Sheesh!
  

• If I am on the cell phone when I walk past you, don’t shout out your phone number because if I am actually talking to someone (which 95% of the time I am not..lol) I will not be inputting your damn number…so save your stank ass breathe! Instead say something sweet like …”Boy that person on the other line is lucky” and give a slight smile; however, this only works if you are cute as hell…lol
  

• If I don’t say hi to you and you get so sensititve that it drives  you to call me a “BITCH” or “WHORE”…I will just recommend you to the nearest Anger Management class or ask you “how dare you talk about your mother like that when she is not around?!?”
  

• Don’t forget to tell me the ring on your MARRIAGE finger is the one you got married with! And that you’re wife is innocently waiting at home for you with your 2 month old daughter and/or son……remember them?! Yeah..Yup…BYE!  Instead you should be upfront and honest, wait for my response (which will be ..What the fuck do I look like seeing a married man?) and thank me for my precious time! LOL
  

• Don’t ask me if I were a model because if I were I would clearly already have a man…right?  And a rich one at that!  Instead of this…JUST DON’T SAY ANYTHING because females are soooooooooo sick of that line too!  And believe you won’t be “gassing my head up”..I am confident not STUPID
  

• NEVER EVER EVER put your hands on me to get my attention…here are the reasons: 1)  I don’t know where your grubby ass hands have been! 2) I have no idea who the hell you are and if I am not getting ready to slip on a piece of ice then stay your ass 5 steps back! 3) Lastly, my kickboxing skills will come into effect so fast you won’t know what hit you!! TRUST!
  

• Lastly (and I will go on and on and on) If you do achieve getting a girl’s attention, why in all hell would you give her a fake cell phone number? How bitch is that?  Are you testing her?  This is soooo disappointing and explains why women keep it movin’!  OK..I AM DONE with this portion of this already too lengthy post!

MY DISLIKES

• Stop all those stupid pick up lines…THEY DON’T WORK AT ALL! … the dumbest one I heard recently was “Damn! If being sexy is a crime (yes he said “Crime”) You’d be guilty as charged!” …WHACK ASS ______!!!!!

• When I ask you what you do for a living…please don’t tell my ass that you are a (let’s run down the choices shall we)  ”producer”, ”rapper in the studio”; “manager”, or “musician” unless you can actually show real proof…and I mean CONSISTENT proof that this is how you make a LEGITIMATE living and that doesn’t mean you showing me your WALLET, it means be honest and you NEED MORE PEOPLE!!!!  GOT THAT? WE GOOD? because that SHIT honestly bugs the hell out of me….if you are just saying it to say it, it only tells me YOU MAKE NO MONEY and the voice in your head tells you that you can be the next big thing like NAS or JAY!!!  AND YOU’RE OBVIOUSLY NOT EVEN CLOSE!! don’t want to shoot your dreams down, but just keepin’ it FUNKY!! Also, what’s more insulting is if I hear your music and its WHACK…the reality of your dream is little to none!!!!!!!!!!  SO DEAD ALL THAT TALK ABOUT…. “I’m THE NEXT BIG THING” …because I will PLAY YOU…I can not be more serious right now!!!!! like really!
  

• NO MUSCLE SHIRTS IF YOU DON’T HAVE ANY!?!..how simple is that to ask for!
  

• HOW DARE YOU LIVE WITH YOUR MOMS PAST THE AGE OF 31!!!!!!!!  Ok so maybe its alright but not if you are literally MOOCHING off of her and asking for money, or asking her to do your laundry, YOU MIGHT AS WELL MOVE THE HELL OUT AND DO THOSE THINGS YOURSELF RIGHT? SO Get off that babyboy mentality please!!!!  If you are not familiar with the babyboy mentality…please watch the movie starring Tyrese..you’ll know what I mean…
  

• Avoid terms like “Shawty”, “Smashing”, or “Heavy Rotation”   because you’ve lost me ALREADY!!! and you should already assume you are not on my level (don’t mean to sound like a cocky chic but a girl definitely has standards and I work too hard to  be caught dead with a dumb dude!)
  

• Don’t ever ask me to pick you up from JAIL or a CLINIC!!! (I totally have that WTF look on my face too..lol)…..yes I’ve been asked that! seriously
  

• TELL THE TRUTH, THE WHOLE TRUTH, AND NOTHING BUT!!! My reason for this statement is this:  I once dated someone who lied to me about his kid! (Shayna Smith…if you are reading this, please contain your laughter because I know I am currently rolling on the floor dying of the comedy!!!!!!!!!!) ok..where was I?  I dated a young man who is actually pretty well known in the streets who conveniently FORGOT to tell me he had a son of elementary school age and well guess how I found out???????????  I found the child hidden in the bathtub in the bathroom!!!!  YEAH THAT’S RIGHT THE BATHTUB….I will give yall time to change your pants as you’ve just pissed in them from laughing so damn hard!!
  

• IF YOU HANG OUT WITH THIS ONE DUDE in your clique of friends more than you want to chill with me….we got to talk FAST!  No he is not your best friend…he’s your BUTT friend!?!…you ALL know what I mean…no further explanation is needed at’all!
  

• Lastly (because I could go on forever…I’ve seen it all), don’t compare me to your mom!!! then I will feel like I have to magically transform into the woman..or its a competition of how much day by day I could be do something similar to her!  That totally freaks me out! Especially if the references to her are FREQUENT and by frequent I mean…every 5 minutes of the day!  (this stems from years of seeing mama’s boys!!!)
  

 WHAT I AM LOOKING FOR IN A MAN!?!?! 

• Have respect for your mother…your entire family really!!!!
  

• Do you wash your behind, brush your teeth, have all of your teeth?
  

• AMBITION should have been the first thing I wrote down..I must be slippin’, but yes..this is a ++++++++!!!!
  

• Let’s define AMBITION:  HAVE SOMETHING GOING ON FOR YOURSELF THAT YOU WHOLE HEARTEDLY BELIEVE IN!!!  ITS A GOAL THAT WILL BE FULFILLED NOT A DREAM YOU ARE CHASING!!!! Do you get it????????????????????????????
  

• BE ABLE TO READ…this is not a joke because I’ve been lied to about this skill as well (SMH-shaking my head)
  

• I am going to sound like a typical female…hold on let me re-phrase…typical ranchy gaudy female when I say this but:  PLEASE HAVE YOUR OWN CAR!! I am not and will never be your TAXI/CHAUFFEUR unless we are married and share a car and even then you should have your shit together! Enough said
  

• DO I SOUND PICKY YET? MIND YOU..I AM NOT SINGLE! LOL so you probably think that my boo has it tough…and he will proudly tell you..NO I REALLY DON’T…THIS CHIC IS OFFICIAL! Right baby?  (giggles)
  

• You know the saying already…your health is your wealth!  Be in tune with it…Go to your doctor regularly..get tested, eat right, and work out…let’s do it together!!! Is that too much to ask?
  

• Have a sexual appetite too!! A healthy one..meaning …its not necessary to “do the do” everyday, but you should want to…we can come to a decent negotiation! LOL how does 4 times a week sound?  LMAOOOOO….Let me stop!
  

• Lastly (this post is seriously long enough) Let’s motivate each other everyday of our lives together whether that’s saying “I love you” encouraging each other in our careers, etc…communicating is way to important to neglect.  I learned the hard way before and I am getting better day by day
  

So I was wondering the other day….is it almost a requirement for most African American young men to go through these particular unfortunate stages in life?  What strikes my concern for this topic is the following article on the rise in murders by Black Teenagers.  I have been observing this one article that has been circulating around the blogosphere (lol …don’t know if that’s a real word), but regardless, the murdering of young black males is alarming and for some reason can’t be stopped! Why? (Read Below)

Murders by Black Teenagers Rise, Bucking a Trend  

By ERIK ECKHOLM

Published: December 29, 2008

The murder rate among black teenagers has climbed since 2000 even as murders by young whites have scarcely grown or declined in some places, according to a new report.

To read more of this article clear here: http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/29/us/29homicide.html?_r=1&goback=%2Ehom

I feel like this:

We all wish that things were as easy as just gathering all of our young black men together and spiritually dividing their souls and truly examining each factor that contributes to their slow destruction such as increasing illiteracy rates, high school drop outs, teen pregnancy and single parent homes, and senseless killings just to name a few….however, tis never that easy

What is the big difference between way back when and now?  The difference is in the so-called evolution of music, interaction in society, brazen music lyrics, and lack of positive role models!!!!   I almost don’t know where it starts…The BLACK MAN or The BLACK WOMAN….It is the woman that makes the MAN…literally…HE IS BORN…what happens thereafter is then up to her, the support of HIM, and unfortunately outside “influences”..So if the family unit does its job right, then there is nothing to worry about right?

WRONG!!!

The outside “influences” have indeed taken over…just read below to see how the rise of violent activities are stealing our wonderful young black men away from us

Much of the spike is due to the increase in gang activity in mid-sized and large cities, according to some experts who spoke to UPI.

The report blames cutbacks in federal support for community policing and juvenile crime prevention, reduced support for after-school, and a weakening of gun laws, according to the New York Times.

“Cuts in these areas have been felt most deeply in poor, black urban areas, helping to explain the growing racial disparity in violent crime,” the Times reported, paraphrasing Fox.

This disconcerting news just drives my passion to develop my project/graduate media studies thesis on the affects of media on the self-esteem of young African American women leaders in today’s society even more! The Black Man’s choice shouldn’t be to either turn to Hip Hop/Producing “In Da Studio”, Drug Dealer/Addict, or a future in Bank Robbery…They MUST know there are options.  Raise your CHILD with OPTIONS!!!  In the meantime….DISCUSS

 TO BE CONTINUED……..

I AM OFFICIALLY DONE WITH MY FIRST SEMESTER IN GRAD SCHOOL AT THE NEW SCHOOL! (WIPING SWEAT OFF MY EYEBROWS) I AM MEDIA FREE UNTIL JANUARY 28th! LOL…

USUALLY THIS IS THE PART WHERE I WOULD SAY ..”IT’S PARTY TIME!…” BUT IN MY CASE…”ITS SLEEPY TIME!! HOLLA!” LOL

HAPPY HOLIDAYS EVERYONE!

The typical Rihanna, Beyonce, Tyra Banks

RIHANNA’S FASHION SENSE

BEYONCE’S BEAUTY

TYRA’S TENACITY

PROFILE OF AN AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMAN PART II:

WHY WOULDN’T ANY YOUNG WOMAN WANT TO BE LIKE ANY OF THESE WOMEN? RIGHT? RICH, BEAUTIFUL, ENVIED….HOWEVER, THINGS AIN’T ALWAYS WHAT IT SEEMS…..YOU DIG?  

THERE ARE MANY OTHER WOMEN IN THE ENTERTAINMENT INDUSTRY THAT ARE JUST AS APPEALING AND INFLUENTIAL!!!   SO WHY THESE THREE?  I’M SURE YOUR LIST IS WAY DIFFERENT FROM MINE.  I THINK I CHOSE THESE THREE WOMEN BECAUSE THEY HAVE EITHER ACCOMPLISHED A LOT OR ARE BASICALLY ATTENTION WHORES! 

REGARDLESS, THE PURPOSE OF THIS POST IS TO HIGHLIGHT THE PROBLEM THAT EXISTS BTWN WOMEN OF COLOR, UNFORTUNATELY THIS PROBLEM RUNS “SKIN DEEP.”   WE OFTEN FORM AN OPINION OF WOMEN OF COLOR ACCORDING TO  THEY WAY THEY LOOK OR ACT (ALL WOMEN REALLY, BUT THIS STUDY IS SPECIFICALLY GEARED TOWARDS AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN).  I AM SURE BY NOW YOU MAY OR MAY NOT HAVE HEARD OF YOUNG BERG (THE WHACK RAPPER) COMMENT ON DARK SKINNED BLACK WOMEN AND HIM REFERRING TO ALL OF THEM AS “DARK BUTTS”….STILL AN UNBELIEVABLE STATEMENT?!?!

OR MORE COMMONLY SAID BY MOST PEOPLE IS….“You’re pretty for a dark skinned girl”  I THINK I’VE EVEN HEARD ONCE OR TWICE ….YOUR PRETTY FOR A BLACK GIRL!?! …ARE YOU SERIOUS? ANYWAY, WHY THE BLONDE EUROPEAN LONG HAIR WITH LIGHT COLOR EYES AND BLEACHED SKIN?  ARE WE NOT HAPPY ABOUT OURSELVES? OR IS IT PURELY JUST ABOUT BEING IN STYLE AND CREATING A STANDARD LOOK AN ACTRESS/ENTERTAINER/ETC. WOULD BE ASSOCIATED WITH?  WOULD YOU AGREE THAT ITS NO LONGER CALLED “ORIGINALITY” IF EVERYONE LOOKS THE SAME? 

WHY STILL HAVE STEREOTYPES AND BASICALLY A “CASTE SYSTEM” FOR AFRICAN AMERICAN WOMEN EXIST IN THE YEAR 2008? IF I RECALL VIVIDLY, WE CURRENTLY HAVE OUR VERY FIRST AFRICAN AMERICAN IN THE WHITE HOUSE, THE MOST HISTORIC THING TO HAPPEN TO THIS COUNTRY BESIDES THE CIVIL RIGHTS MOVEMENT AND WOMEN GAINING THE RIGHT TO VOTE!!!!!!  CAN WE AS BLACK WOMEN GET IT TOGETHER?  IF THERE IS GOING TO BE THIS MUCH HATE, WHY DON’T WE JUST REWIND TO THE 1950s and 60s?  I FEEL LIKE THIS PROBLEM WILL CONTRIBUTE TO SETTING US BACK 20 YEARS AND WILL LEAVE US ON THE BOTTOM OF THE TOTEM POLE FOREVER …..

I THINK IT WAS MY MEDIA STUDIES IDEAS CLASS WHERE SOMEONE SAID IN TERMS OF PROFESSIONAL ADVANCEMENT, “BLACK WOMEN ARE CONSIDERED AT THE BOTTOM OF THE PROFESSIONAL TOTEM POLE IN GETTING PAID THE LEAST AND HOLDING HIGH CORPORATE POSITIONS…FIRST ITS WHITE MEN, WHITE WOMEN, BLACK MEN, THEN BLACK WOMEN” 

OF COURSE WE CANNOT ADVANCE IF WE CANNOT UNDERSTAND AND LOVE OURSELVES….TOO DAMN BAD ITS STILL A “STRUGGLE”…THE MORE AND MORE I USE THAT WORD (STRUGGLE), THE MORE I DISLIKE IT!

WHERE WILL WE STAND IF WE CAN’T EVEN STAND FOR OURSELVES?

THIS POST IS TO BE CONTINUED…..

LMAO…I THINK IT REALLY HAS COME TO THIS!!!

So I cannot part ways with my blackberry..its literally always by my side! Is it a bad thing if I don’t actually know what any of my friends really sound like over the phone or that I don’t know how to dial out numbers anymore?  I guess I was just thinking about this the other day because I had an entire conversation with this dude via text and never once thought to actually call him so that it would at least sound more authentic!!!  What’s happening to society? Communication?  AM I A DAMN ROBOT? LOL….. A shame isn’t it?  I swear I will try to call someone this week even if its to say hi!  All you other blackberry/crackberry/blueberry users should too! LOL

Just thought I’d share my frustration with this current relationship of mine

(You’re probably thinking…if this is the only problem you got…WAKE UP BITCH!!!! the economy is crumbling….like I said, its just a thought..now back to hiding my money under my mattress

IS IT OR IS IT NOT 2008 PEOPLE?  IF SO…WHAT GIVES WITH THIS VIDEO?  I was even reading the comments below this YOUTUBE Video and was just in AWE of how divided this nation really is…..STILL

THIS IS OUR FUTURE WE ARE TALKING ABOUT…WHETHER ITS MCCAIN OR OBAMA…THERE IS STILL THE WAR & ECONOMIC CRISIS THAT NEEDS OUR ATTENTION

Please look at the YOUTUBE video below and garner your own reaction

Simple Question:  Do you believe this country is ready for any change? 

We all know that America is the land of opportunity and “freedom” to some degree, but with so many people (voters) up in the air about this election and the direction this country should go, what will possibly be the fate of USA? 

We are currently in the worst economic crisis to date!

Jobs are being lost or taken away, I have seen more homeless people than ever on the streets, the price of homes and education is unreal……Let’s not talk about the WAR

SO

Who can really help us now? Who can change this situation for the better? Is it really btwn Obama and McCain? 

MOST IMPORTANT QUESTION….Has this election turned into a popularity contest and just seen as a BIG JOKE?

Here’s more to stimulate conversation:

A few friends of mine carried on some interesting dialogue this morning about what they think about the idea of voters still being “undecided”, here is what they had to say:

Johnnie:  “I don’t get swing states.  How do you not know who your voting for at this point? Being undecided is a mark of weakness and is really just used so that people can speak freely about the candidates without sounding partisan or prejudiced.

Fina:  Is anyone else filled with anxiety these days??? I’m hopeful but I also fear that curtain will close behind the voters in the pollbooths and only then will they be able to vote freely without being judged and thus the closet racists will be free to come out…Ugh….

Johnnie:   I have a lot of thoughts on this and the main one that comes to mind is that I don’t believe this country is ready as much as they say it is.  This election should be a landslide but I have a feeling people will vote for who they are used to voting for, all order will be restored, and the people’s “love affair” with Barack Obama will be OVER

You can continue on with your own thought…..

 DISCUSS.

Check out below as to how so people are just not too supportive of Senator John McCain and his running mate Sarah Palin….LMAO

“You can spend your time piping petroleum in protected public parks, peddling pro-life propaganda for unplanned pregnancies, and putting lipstick on pigs, polar bears, and police state politics. We’ll provide poignant parodies of your party’s predictable platforms and pathetic public policies……”

The above picture and quote is actually a T-Shirt you can find on ThreadPit.com!  Unbelievable huh? I actually think it pretty much sums up McCain’s campaign strategies! lol….Moving right along though….

Have you ever wondered what the deal is with Sarah Palin? What is her real purpose in this campaign…let’s review shall we:

AP / Getty Images / AP

•  First off…the Republican National Committee spends more than $150,000 to clothe and accessorize the Alaskan VP  beauty
  

• Palin allegedly abused her power while in office in Alaska by attempting to get her brother-in-law fired from his position
  

• Lastly, an investigation has been launched against Gov. Palin who allegedly charged the state for her children to travel with her, including to events where they were not invited, and later amended expense reports to specify that they were on official business.  The charges included costs for hotel and commercial flights for three daughters to join Palin to watch their father in a snowmobile race, and a trip to New York, where the governor attended a five-hour conference and stayed with 17-year-old Bristol for five days and four nights in a luxury hotel. In all, Palin has charged the state $21,012  

With all that said…..do you really want Palin running this country one day in the case that McCain is incapable of doing so……..Now please click on the link below for more reasons why Palin should go salin’ bye bye…..lol

http://www.palinaspresident.com/